We are all adults here, right? As such, we all know what dominatrixes do. It isn’t counting trees at the local park, that’s for sure!
Now, for those who, for some reason, aren’t in the know, a dominatrix is a woman whose sole purpose is to dominate. You hire them when you think you have been so naughty the universe is complaining. They then dominate and humiliate you while also administering some physical punishment and a devastating blow to your bank account.
Dominatrixes come in varied flavors. Some are thin, while others have plenty of meat on them. Some are cheery, while others behave like undertakers.
Then there are those who engage in sexual-related activities with their clients. Other doms refrain from this. Such doms spend their time filling the ears of their slaves and subjects with talk that would normally shrivel the testicles of most of the male populace!
Becoming a dominatrix can be quite a good choice, careerwise. The pay is fabulous and the hours super flexible – you may even find a sugar daddy. There’s also a good likelihood of meeting the most interesting folk.
And that, among other reasons, is why more and more of the local ladies are choosing that sort of life. You could too, if you had the balls!
Getting on the Dom Train!
Do you have dreams of becoming a dom? Sure you do; otherwise, you wouldn’t have your nose buried in this article.
If you are serious about the thought, the first thing to do is to make sure that you are of legal age. That means you have to be around 18 years old. Better check your birth certificate right now.
The next thing is to start small. You can, for example, engage in phone sex work. That will let you know if this idea is just a passing phase.
You can also practice dom things with your friends. Just be sure to call it play so that they are not clued in.
But should you develop a passion for talking dirty to men over the phone and cussing them out, it might be time to party! Yes, scream and yell because the dom life might just be for you.
Once you have learned a little of the ropes and are comfortable with what being a dom entails, it might be time to scale up and branch out. You might choose to work for another dom or rent a space for yourself.
Sure, you can work from your home or ask a friend to use their place. But having an office of your own for dom work lets you look like a real professional. Plus, having a bunch of strange men know where you live might not be the wisest thing.
We recommend that you begin by working for another dom. The main reason is that this helps teach you what works and what doesn’t.
Yet another reason to go that route is that renting a suitable working space can be expensive. It’s much better to put it off till you have learned enough about the dom life from another dom to fill several volumes. By then, you can go solo and have enough clients of your own to pay the bills.
Some experienced doms are open to mentoring would-be doms. However, most of them won’t do that until they’re sure that is really what someone wants to do and that they are not in it for the money. The mentorship typically lasts a few years, during which the individual gets lots of hands-on experience.
Do you want a dom to mentor you? Then it is probably best that you show up at all BDSM-related events in your area.
You can, for example, ask around for the next munch meet and do your best to be there. Don’t worry; there won’t be too much hanky-panky for a noob like you! Just chill out and drink in what’s going on.
You might as well attend the annual Folsom Street Events and others like it. There, you can gain experience that might stay with you for life.
Why not log on to WWW.FindAMunch.com and check out all the arranged meets. Feel free to attend any that you think would be perfect for you. Also, feel free to join BDSM dating apps like FetLife.com. There, you can connect with like-minded folk, get information on local meets, and more.
While at a meet, try to impress the educators and make one or all consider taking you under their wing. Impressing them does not mean you need to act like a savage at the sight of a blood meal. Instead, show them that you are a true natural at this, rather than a pretender and a dabbler whose only draw is fame and money.
Should they be unwilling to mentor you, do your best to persuade them to refer you to other experienced doms looking to train someone like you. Once the mentorship is complete, you can strike out on your own and rule the world!
If you are not comfortable with going out to search for mentors, you can, of course, do this from the cozy confines of your bed or sofa. Just Google for mentors in your surrounding area or put in a classified ad in the local paper asking qualified mentors looking for apprentices to reach out to you.
However, before settling down with a mentor, be sure that your interests match and that you both understand each other. Also, make certain that the mentor really wants to help you develop your skills, instead of being merely interested in your body or worse.
If a potential mentor creeps you out, listen to your gut and run fast in the opposite direction.
It’s a Dom World, and We Are All Invited!
Being a dom does sound like the easiest job in the world. They earn their keep mostly by telling fat cats their penises are so tiny they could use them to pick their noses with!
However, it is not all that rosy. Before becoming a dominatrix, there are some things to keep in mind. These are as follows:
- The Cash Draw: becoming a dom just because you have heard the money is excellent is an absolute no-no. If it’s money that you seek, you would be better off digging for diamonds in your backyard. To begin with, if you are just starting out as a dom, you won’t be raking in the moolah till you have steady clients. That means you need to hold on to your day job and dominate the fellas in your spare time. That is easier said than done and can be stressful.
- The Hate Is Lit: these days, being a man-hater is pretty much an everyday thing. It is OK if you think or feel that way, but that is bound to scuttle your ambitions of becoming a dominatrix. You see, being a dom means men open up to you and are thus vulnerable on all fronts. That, however, doesn’t give you a license to emotionally and physically abuse them. Being a dom requires bucketloads of empathy. You also need to know and respect limits, safewords, and boundaries. Should you merely feel a raging need to physically and emotionally abuse the menfolk for real and imagined slights, then a career as a dom is probably not for you. Instead, think about becoming the person hired to thrash deviant folks in Malaysian prisons.
- Knowing How Things Work: the dom world is ever-evolving. There are always new things to learn, as well as better ways of doing old things. That means becoming a dom means keeping oneself open to new ideas and practices and even inventing a few all by your lonesome.
- Success Takes Time to Bake: becoming successful as a dom is not going to happen overnight. It will take a few years of work to learn the most important things about the industry. Getting the hang of each dom tool and having at least basic knowledge of human anatomy would be great. Such insight will prevent your unintentionally harming your charges. It will also teach you the best ways of giving them pleasure their brain matter will be unable to resist!
- Sources Aplenty: there are lots of things to learn about becoming a dom. Learning is possible via any of the wide array of websites that devote themselves to the niche. A simple Google search on topics like “How to become a dominatrix” will display a truckload of hits. It is also possible to learn, relearn, and refresh your skills via workshops and online tutorials. Being mentored by a pro is also heavily recommended, but that is not something that is easily achieved.
- Profiled and Damned: sure, you are a dom, or at least you want to be. But once you are one, the public at large and the government will rush to profile you as a sex worker. Is such profiling cool with you? As a presumed sex worker, you will, of course, be bound by the same rules that govern sex workers in your vicinity. Be sure to check out these rules and see if they are something you can live with. Oh, once you are a dom, be sure to pay your taxes on the income you make. Else the government might throw a hissy fit!
Dom on the Way!
Being a dom is unlike most other jobs in the world. If, for example, you work in the retail sector and habitually abuse the customers, it would be safe to say that your career is going to be a really short one.
Dominatrixes, on the other hand, purposefully insult, demean, and humiliate. They generally behave like the proverbial bitch who’s having a bad day and fully intends to make sure everyone suffers for it. However, there are still many different types of BDSM that you can explore if you think about getting in on the act.
Still, there is no denying the tremendous appeal of such jobs. Things like great pay and very flexible hours appeal to lots of present and future doms. Then, there is the fact that if they do their job well, an oil magnate just might bequeath them a private island or two!
Work as a dom offers an opportunity to meet the most interesting individuals from all over the globe. These are sometimes industry titans who need a break from it all. They get off on being called every name in the book and beaten like the bad boys they are.
Worth noting is that working as a dom will result in a lifestyle change. It can affect your emotions and how you look upon life, but at least it has positive effects on your bank account!
Moreover, working as a dom means adopting the correct costume, language, and equipment. It also means having enough confidence to make a real goddess blush with envy. With this confidence in place, you are free to act like you own the world and will convince your sub of that fact.
Finding the correct costume for the job is a must. Leather works wonders — the tighter, the better. It, however, all depends on what the client wants. So if he prefers being dominated by a grandmotherly woman, dress the part and don’t complain much.
As for the equipment, it will take the form of best male sex toys and some nice torture instruments. With these, you can give your sub a nice hiding that will keep him lodged and heartily fed on cloud nine for a few days!
Financial Doms Have It Made!
Have you ever heard of financial domination and wondered how to become a findom? Will you and your peeps feel up to confessing secretly spending nights researching how to become a financial dominatrix? Have you ever asked around on topics like ’What is financial domination?’ and ’How to be a financial dominatrix?’ If so, you are not alone.
Financial domination is the in-thing right now, with lots of ladies rushing into it. The reason for this popularity is that these doms are the best paid of the lot. And by a persuasive margin.
So what is a financial dominatrix, and what does she do? Well, a financial dom does nothing but sit on her soft fanny as men send her money. Sending this money are those who feel pleasure from spending on females they will likely never meet.
Being a financial dom means you won’t usually need to dress in leather and act like a vamp who has not had her morning coffee. You can just chill out as random men beg you to accept their money and even hand over their bank account information.
Getting work as a financial dom can be the equivalent of discovering the elixir of life and selling it on Amazon. The top financial doms earn four-figure sums monthly and six-figure sums annually. That’s some serious money right there!
Should you be starting out, your earnings are bound to be lower — at least until you get a steady clientele or trip over guys with more money than sense! You can speed up that process by launching your own dominatrix website with a WordPress theme like ModelX, which will help you get started in no time.
Conclusion
A dominatrix is one who makes somewhat bad things happen to folks who probably deserve it. It can be a challenging job and is physically/mentally tasking. As such, it is not a line of work that all can do, though it can be a rather lucrative one.
To become a dominatrix, you first need to know for sure that it is what you want to do. Then take tentative steps to actualize your dream, seek top doms willing to mentor and teach you the ropes and learn all you can about being a dom. You can also check online resources such as BDSM For All.
Be aware that being successful in the business will take lots of time and effort. Be conscious of the fact that you can meet people with some rather loose screws in their noggin.
If that’s cool with you, then go forth and prosper as a dom, especially as a financial dom or the one who wants to sell fetish photos and videos. We wish you the best of luck and will be booking a session with you later this week!